Hello, and thank you for returning!
So, now that we’ve figured out the how; it’s time for you to sit down with your partner and write out a list of the WHO! So, it’s time for you and your partner to sit down together and sort out your guest list. Yay, super fun! People will be coming from far and wide to witness your commitment to one another–seriously, what could be more special than that?–and it is super fun envisioning all of our loved ones (finally) in one place!
You may get pressure from your parents or his parents to invite your great aunt so-and-so twice-removed, or the guy who sits behind your dad at work who you have never met. I know it is frustrating, seriously, I get it. But try to have grace. Always keep in mind that you are building something MUCH larger than just this one event with this whole crazy thing, so be as gracious and kind as possible. Also, keep in mind that the reason he wants to invite random-work-guy is because he is so excited for you and your partner which is super duper sweet. That being said, if you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it. It is what it is, and hopefully they will give you enough grace to understand that. You got this, my friend! Deep breath, and then kill them with that kindness!
As far as the numbers are concerned, there will be some guests who you don’t expect to come who will and there will be some people you do expect to come who won’t–bummer! So, leave a bit of wiggle room in the number of guests you invite and don’t be too sad about the people who aren’t able to make it. According to The Knot, expect that ten to twenty percent of your guests will have to decline your invite. From personal experience, I can tell you that about a third of the people who we invited weren’t able to come which was, admittedly, a bummer, but, also, things move so fast during this time, you hardly have the time to chat with everyone who does come. So try not to focus on the people who can’t make it, and instead focus on the people who can.
Throughout this process, please keep in mind that as you find a venue (the where) and find out the cost of catering, you may have to cut a few people from your list–I know, it’s super lame, but it’s also reality. So, it’s really probably best to hold off on sending out the FB invite asking for all your loved-ones’ addresses until you have a little bit more sorted out.
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